Ever feel like there’s something out there watching over you—not in a creepy way, but like a comforting presence that kinda whispers, “Hey, I got you”? Yeah, same. Life throws a ton at us, and sometimes, you just want to believe that you’re not doing this whole thing alone.
Enter: spirit guides.
Now, before you roll your eyes or picture someone in a long robe with crystals taped to their forehead, hear me out. Spirit guides aren’t some fantasy reserved for psychic hotlines or mystical forest witches. They’re subtle, personal, and honestly... pretty chill once you get to know them. If you’re just starting out and thinking what am I even doing, you’re in good company. Let’s break it down.
So, What Are Spirit Guides—Really?
Honestly? They’re like cosmic besties. Some people say they’re ancestors, others say angels, animal spirits, or old souls from past lives. Doesn’t really matter what form they take—it’s more about how they feel. They’re usually quiet, patient, and only step in when they sense you actually want them around. Kind of like that one friend who doesn’t text all the time but shows up exactly when you need them.
Step 1: Make a Space That Feels Like You
Forget aesthetics. This isn’t Instagram. Just find a little corner where you feel calm—your bed, the floor, a closet you’ve claimed as your "spiritual cave," whatever. Light a candle, burn incense, or don’t. Play some soft tunes or sit in silence. You’re just telling your nervous system, “Hey, we’re doing something sacred now.”
I used to sit on this squeaky old cushion in my bedroom next to a dusty plant. Nothing fancy. But over time, it started to feel like my little portal. It’s wild how quickly a space shifts when you keep showing up with intention.
Step 2: Say What You Want (No Need to Be Fancy)
You don’t need a script. Just say it like you mean it:
“Okay… I’d really like to connect with whoever’s out there helping me behind the scenes.”
That’s enough. You’re not summoning anyone—you’re inviting. Like sending out an RSVP to your spirit team saying, “I’m ready if you are.”
Step 3: Sit Your Butt Down and Breathe
Close your eyes. Take some slow breaths. Don’t worry about “clearing your mind”—that’s not realistic. Just… soften. Imagine a light around you or above you—whatever feels nice. Ask your guides to come closer, and then listen. Not with your ears, but with your body. Do you feel tingles? Warmth? Random emotions bubbling up? That could be them.
I remember once, in the middle of a super half-assed meditation (I was tired and annoyed), I suddenly felt this pressure on my shoulder like someone was gently leaning in. No one was there. But it didn’t feel scary—it felt like, “Hey, you’re not alone.” I legit cried after.
Step 4: Pay Attention to the Weird Stuff
Spirit guides don’t usually drop booming voices from the sky. They’re way more lowkey. Like…
You keep seeing the same number everywhere.
A random song comes on that hits you like a message.
Someone says something offhand that weirdly answers the question you’ve been struggling with.
That’s how they roll. Once I was debating whether to leave a job I hated. That week, I kept hearing a song from my childhood—one that always reminded me of my grandmother (who had passed). I hadn’t heard it in years. Coincidence? Maybe. But it felt like a hug from her saying, “You’ll be fine. Go.”
Step 5: Write It All Down (Even the Dumb-Sounding Stuff)
Grab a notebook and jot down your dreams, gut feelings, signs you’ve noticed—everything. Don’t judge it. It doesn’t have to make sense. Later on, you’ll start to connect dots you didn’t even realize were there.
I once wrote, “Saw a blue butterfly in the rain = ?? weird??” A month later, blue butterflies kept showing up whenever I felt super anxious. Now I see them as a sign to pause and breathe. Coincidence? Maybe. But they work for me.
Step 6: Say Thank You (Even If You’re Not Sure Anything Happened)
End your little session with a simple “Thanks for being here.” That’s it. Gratitude keeps the channel open. Think of it like feeding a stray cat—you keep being kind, and they’ll come back.
Okay, But What If You’re Struggling?
Let’s be real. Not everyone connects easily right away. Here’s what might come up:
You feel dumb. Yep. I did too. Keep going anyway. It gets easier.
You don’t feel anything. That’s normal. Your spirit team doesn’t work on your schedule. Trust they’re listening even if you don’t “hear” back.
You’re scared. Visualize yourself in a bubble of warm light. You’re safe. Your intention matters more than anything.
Final Thoughts (aka: Real Talk)
Connecting with your spirit guides isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence. It’s about trusting that there’s more going on than meets the eye—and that maybe, just maybe, you don’t have to figure it all out alone.
So yeah, light that candle. Sit with yourself. Whisper a quiet “hello” to the unknown. Because whether you realize it or not, something out there already knows your name—and they’ve been waiting for you to reach out.
